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Quite frankly, I am amazed by how much money couples and parents, for that matter, are willing to spend on weddings nowadays. I understand some of the rationale; a wedding is one of the largest events of our lives, I get that! But, it doesn’t have to drain the pocketbook, does it? You can throw all the money in the world at a wedding, it still will not make a marriage successful. In today’s society, there is an attempt to pushed God farther and farther away. Matrimony is no exception to this trend.
The Sacrament of Matrimony has been hijacked, and made into another materialistic possession. We humans have done it again. Somehow we tend to take beautiful gifts of God and pervert and twist them beyond recognition. Don't get me wrong, I acknowledge the fact that weddings are both a celebration and a spiritual activity. It’s just that it seems to me the spiritual elements or being squeezed out, and most wedding have become a spectacle of comparison.
We read in Genesis 2;18-25, Marriage was instituted by God. It is the covenant bond between man and woman; they become one body, an image of the absolute and unfailing love with which God loves man (CCC 1604). In Matthew 19;6 Jesus is crystal clear when he explains that marriage is a Sacrament, an act of a visible physical sign and an inward spiritual sign of divine grace. This mark of Matrimonial grace, Jesus says, is permanent until death. It is said that no man can separate a “valid” marital covenant, not even a bishop.
When God is removed from a marriage it becomes an invalid union. Marriage was created by God in the image and likeness of the union between the Father the Son, the Holy Spirit and His Church (the bride of Christ - Rev. 19; 7-9). This desire, which is a grace, is placed in the heart of man. It is evident as he longs to satisfy this desire, all the days of his life. I believe when God is not invited to the wedding, this desire still persists, but man tries to satisfy it with materialism.
In my opinion, this explains why more and more money is being spent on weddings. The farther we push God out, the darker weddings become, the emptier marriages seem, and we use money and glamour as a way to fill those voids. This is also one reason divorce is an epidemic. Today, most weddings are not occurring for the ‘deepest reason’ - “The deepest reason is found in the fidelity of God to his covenant, in Christ to his Church”. “Through the sacrament of Matrimony the spouses are enabled to represent this fidelity and witness to it” (CCC 1647).